Pema Chödrön: The Only Thing that Makes Sense is for Us to Reach Out to One Another

 

From Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change 

One of the astronauts who went to the moon later described his experience looking back at Earth from that perspective. Earth looked so small, he said. Just a single sphere hanging in space. It made him very sad to realize that we have divided the world arbitrarily into countries that we're fiercely attached to, with borders we keep waging wars to protect. What we do just doesn't make sense, he realized. We have just this one Earth with one people to take care of it, and the way we're going about it is crazy.

Chief Seattle had the same insight more than a hundred years ago: "We are all children of the Great Spirit. We all belong to Mother Earth. Our planet is in great trouble, and if we keep carrying old grudges and do not work together, we will all die."

The way we label things is the way they will appear to us. When we label a piece of earth China or Brazil or the United States, it becomes an entity that carries strong emotional luggage. When we label something good, we see it as good. When we label something bad, we see it as bad. We get so hung up on like and dislike, on who's right and who's wrong, as if these labels were ultimately real. Yet the human experience is an experience of nothing to hand on to, nothing that's set once and for all. Reality is always falling apart. In this fleeting situation, the only thing that makes sense is for us to reach out to one another.

As we move the direction of seeing more space around our fixed ideas, around our limited sense of self, around our notions of right and wrong, around the labels we're so invested in, the crack of our conventional way of experiencing life will get wider and wider. At that point it may start to dawn on us that if we want to change the movie of our life, we will have to change our mind...

If your mind is expansive and unfettered, you will find yourself in a more accommodating world, a place that's endlessly interesting and alive. That quality isn't inherent in the place but in your state of mind. The warrior longs to communicate that all of us have access to our basic goodness and that genuine freedom comes from going beyond labels and projections, beyond bias and prejudice, and taking care of each other. 

- Pema Chödrön