My experience has been that certainly among life's greatest challenges is making a conscious choice of whether or not to be bitter. If we do not make this a conscious choice, we will likely be acting out our unconscious choice in ways that cause more harm than healing. Certainly among life's greatest callings is to learn the gifts of the alchemist - how to embrace, heal, transform the harm we have suffered from others, and from ourselves, and discover the hard-won gifts of wisdom, compassion, and deepened and mature love buried in our suffering. It is there. May we claim these precious gifts.
Peace & blessings ~ Molly