This Should Help Men Understand Even More What "Me Too" Means

THIS SHOULD HELP MEN UNDERSTAND EVEN MORE WHAT "ME TOO" MEANS IN REAL TERMS*

 
From Jackson Katz: "I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? At first there is a kind of awkward silence as the men try to figure out if they've been asked a trick question.
 
The silence gives way to a smattering of nervous laughter. Occasionally, a young a guy will raise his hand and say, 'I stay out of prison.' This is typically followed by another moment of laughter, before someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, 'Nothing. I don't think about it.'

Then I ask women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands. As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine.

Here are some of their answers:
• Hold my keys as a potential weapon.
• Look in the back seat of the car before getting in.
• Carry a cell phone.
• Don't go jogging at night.
• Lock all windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights.
• Be careful not to drink too much.
• Don't put my drink down and come back to it
• Make sure I see my drink being poured.
• Own a big dog.
• Carry Mace or pepper spray.
• Have an unlisted phone number.
• Have a man's voice on my answering machine.
• Park in well-lit areas.
• Don't use parking garages.
• Don't get on elevators with only one man.
• Don't get on elevatorswith a group of men.
• Vary my route home from work.
• Watch what I wear.
• Don't use highway rest areas.
• Use a home alarm system.
• Don't wear headphones when jogging.
• Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime.
• Don't take a first-floor apartment.
• Go out in groups.
• Own a firearm.
• Meet men on first dates in public places.
• Make sure to have a car or cab fare.
• Don't make eye contact with men on the street.
• Make assertive eye contact with men on the street...."
• etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.

 ― Jackson Katz

From The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women 

and How All Men Can Help

*This is a powerful and vital post. I also am moved to add additional feedback from Peter Van Buren, who shares: "For those of us who live in big cities, a lot of those precautions apply to everyone, male or female. Many predators out there; some looking for money, some sexual assault, some angry and crazy and just want to beat someone." It is important to also acknowledge that men can be and are victimized, too. - Molly