Thank you once again to David Bedrick for sharing this compassionate wisdom. So much is needed as antidotes to the ancestral and/or cultural messages that we are often immersed in which can act to infuse us with shame and judgment rather than deepening awareness, acceptance, compassion, tenderness, and lovingkindness. David's voice is a beautiful gift for all of us who’ve struggled to open our hearts to loving ourselves and others. Deep gratitude. 🙏 Molly
To label some feelings "lower forms," "lesser frequencies," or "negative" can foster shame and is often based on a confusion about feeling life.
What I see people calling a "negative" or a "lower frequency" emotion is almost always a distorted form of an emotion, instead of a pure form.
Let me explain.
Many emotions are not free to be expressed, instead they are feelings wrapped in shame, denial, dismissal, gaslighting, or even hatred, all of which distort the expression of the feeling.
It is this distorted expression that then gets judged as "negative."
Even looking at a feeling as a lower level of consciousness serves to distort its expression.
This is commonly true with anger, fear, trauma-related emotions, feelings of power, ecstasy, excitement, even deep self-love - the normalized system truncates them, preventing them from freely being truly felt and expressed.
it's simple really: If you look upon a feeling as something that needs to be suppressed, oppressed or otherwise marginalized, it shows up in problematic and disturbing ways.
The same is true for people: When we treat someone with the intent to marginalize, suppress or oppress them, we shouldn't be surprised if they show up in ways that are disturbing.
Differences in feelings are like differences in people: It is a diversity issue.
That's right - the best way, in my view, of looking at different feelings is just like we look at the diversity in people or nature - NOT BY RANKING THEM.
— David Bedrick
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