Monday, June 8, 2026

Reflections On the Vital Need For Us All To Lower Our Tolerance For Violence

This image is AI generated.
Actual photographs of destruction of White House and lawn

There are so many stunning, heartbreaking images and stories now, day after day, which shine bright light on all this darkness and the reality of a dying empire. Some of the photos coming out are AI generated and certainly symbolize the heartbreaking reality. The other actual photographs that I'm sharing above of so much destruction and desecration are no less disturbing and horrifying.

In sharing these images above, it also needs to be illuminated that Trump is but a symptom of something so much larger than this one malignant narcissist and his fascist administration. He is the poster boy for toxic masculinity and the violence embedded in patriarchy ― which is something that is certainly also the core of UFC and the endorsement and worship of male dominance and violence.

And, yet, so many are fans and pay to watch the brutality of human beings fighting one another. In one form or another, this has been going on for a very, very long time. And it isn't just men, but also women who experience excitement and pleasure in watching the violence that one human being can inflict on another while cheering and waiting breathlessly to see which bloodied body will triumph over the other.

But how did we get here? How is it that our tolerance for causing harm is so high and that the many different faces of violence are so normalized in American culture? In part, I recognize today that there has tragically been a long trajectory enabled by both major political parties and a corporate owned mainstream media which have together brought our nation into the countless horrors that we face today. And there are many layers that go back in time.

If we dive deeper and deeper, we can see how dominator culture rather than one rooted in partnership has long been with us. The wise and courageous Riane Eisler has written brilliantly about this (https://rianeeisler.com/articles-papers/). And then there are the voices like bell hooks who just grabbed me when I first heard her words: "imperialist white-supremacist capitalist patriarchy." Well, of course! To one degree or another, this is what has impacted us all and back through time.

I believe that it is important for us to understand that it isn't just Trump who is responsible for the nightmares we are now living. This numbing and severance from the wisdom of our hearts and souls began long ago and has often been blindly passed on generation after generation by both our ancestors and also by the culture in which we live.

It is hard to be healthy in an unhealthy culture! And it is, therefore, not surprising that there are countless places where toxic masculinity and the many faces and forms of violence show up. Consequently...

  • Is it no wonder that a genocide in Gaza has been allowed to continue compliments of American taxpayers who are footing the bill for the bombs annihilating the whole of the Palestinian people?
  • From this perspective, we can also understand how it is that so many of us are deeply polarized and that dehumanization has become so normalized that millions of Americans support ICE and the brutal immigration practices and policies enacted by both major political parties.
  • Our disconnect from ourselves also disconnects us from our Earth Mother, causing countless Americans to be oblivious to the climate crisis with its root causes in the burning of fossil fuels and the deadly inaction on transitioning to renewables ― thus enabling this suicidal trajectory that we are on to continue which threatens all of life on Earth.
  • Meanwhile, endless wars go on and on.
  • Americans are armed to the teeth while mass shootings continue and children in American schools have to experience active shooter drills.
  • The United States imprisons more human beings than anywhere else in the world and is the only developed nation to enforce the death penalty.
  • The US is the only developed country to fail to provide healthcare and as a result millions of Americans go bankrupt or die every year.
  • We also tragically witness our youth and the American population at large suffering from and experiencing the many symptoms of trauma ― depression and anxiety, child abuse and neglect, domestic violence, autoimmune and other illnesses, being the victims or perpetrators of violence, and an enormous array of addictions — to substances, social media, work, exercise, food, sex, shopping, religion, meditation, spiritual bypassing, compulsive cleaning, hoarding, gambling, caretaking, people, pornography, cults, gurus, greed, guns, war, unhealthy relationships, political polarizations, conspiracy theories, image management and perfectionism, anger and chaos, power and control, judgments and dehumanization, mental and emotional states that are dangerous, projections and ideologies of separation rather than connection. And the list goes on. All addictions serve as a distraction from, and as an attempt to cope with, pain and trauma.
  • Rugged individualism and isolation run rampant in American culture.
  • Misogyny, racism, homophobia, islamophobia, antisemitism are common place in our nation.
  • Poverty is experienced by millions in the United States at the same time that the immoral and insane redistribution of wealth upwards continues unabated and to accelerate
  • Apathy and inaction is common place.

And the list tragically goes on and on...

So it is no wonder that toxic masculinity is showing up on the White House lawn and countless other places ― including in the President of the United States?

If only the vast majority of us could recognize this as a bright light acting as a mirror which is shining on what needs our attention, what needs healing, what needs to be radically transformed in ourselves, our nation, and beyond. Unearthing, recognizing and understanding, and taking responsibility for healing and transforming the shadow side of our country is so very long overdue and vital to the welfare of us all.

As Riane Eisler has wisely said, "Love, caring, and empathy are central to solving the world's problems." May this be what we all increasingly embody. May we be empowered to do the ongoing crucial work of alleviating the suffering in ourselves and our world. And may we do the hard work of recognizing and lowering our tolerance for the many faces of violence. Love is our resistance.

Bless us all,
Molly

EXCELLENT ― Faisal R. Khan: The Unveiled Truth: A Reckoning Long Overdue

WOW! This piece by my friend Faisal Khan is so excellent, powerful, and horrifyingly true. Thank you, Faisal! These are the facts that we need to see, absorb, and be continuously inspired to act upon in every way humanly possible. Blessed be the truth-tellers!

Failing to individually and collectively recognize, own, heal, and transform the shadow side of America has cost us all dearly. Every day we witness in the United States and beyond how the violence of the past that has been with us since the earliest days of colonialism, slavery, and the genocide of the Indigenous Peoples ― continues to play out and haunt us in the present. Nothing can be healed until it is faced. And, indeed, these truths that are so well articulated in my wise and courageous friend's article reveal a reckoning that is long, long overdue. ― Molly

The Unveiled Truth:
A Reckoning Long Overdue

The curtain has been pulled back, the veneer stripped away and suddenly, those who never flinched are flinching. Let us be unambiguous: this nation has not become something different in the last eighteen to twenty months. It has always been this. The hypocrisy is not new. The double standard is not new.
What is new is that the ugliness is now too raw, too visible, too loud to ignore. As Dr. King warned, the greatest purveyor of injustice often wears the costume of the righteous and that costume has been worn by both parties, for decades, without interruption.
The Numbers Don’t Lie and They Don’t Care About Your Party. Healthcare costs in the United States have been crushing working families long before any single administration took credit or deflected blame. In 1984, the average American spent roughly $1,200 per year on healthcare. By 2023, that number had exploded to over $13,000 per person annually, a trajectory that climbed steadily through Reagan, Clinton, Bush, Obama, Trump, and Biden alike. The average home price in 1980 was around $76,000. By 2024, the national median had surpassed $420,000, while wages, adjusted for inflation, have remained largely stagnant for the bottom 60% of earners since the 1970s. Infrastructure? The American Society of Civil Engineers has given this country a C minus grade, the result of decades of deferred investment, bipartisan neglect, and misplaced priorities. These are not eighteen month failures. These are fifty year decisions compounding into a national crisis.
Wars Without End, Administered by Both Parties. The invasion of Iraq was launched under Bush and sustained under Obama. Libya was bombed and destabilized under Obama. Afghanistan was invaded under Bush, escalated under Obama, and left in ruins after twenty years of bipartisan mismanagement. Syria was bombed under Obama and again under Trump. Yemen has been relentlessly devastated, with American manufactured weapons and American logistical support flowing under both Democratic and Republican administrations. Drone strikes, which became a signature tool of extrajudicial killing, were massively expanded under Obama, who oversaw strikes across Pakistan, Somalia, Yemen, and Afghanistan, often killing civilians and rarely facing accountability.
The occupation and dispossession of Palestinian land, now over seventy seven years deep, has been funded, armed, and diplomatically shielded by every single American administration regardless of party. This is not a red or blue failure. This is an American foreign policy doctrine, consistent, bipartisan, and brutal.
Some have spent the last eighteen months writing passionately about how cruel this country has become, how unrecognizable, how hostile to immigrants and refugees. And yes, the savagery is more unfiltered now, more visceral, more unrestrained than before. But it did not conjure itself out of thin air. Every mechanism, every tool, every infrastructure of control that is being wielded today was already in place, already signed into law, already normalized long before the last general election.
The Patriot Act, one of the most expansive surveillance apparatuses ever built in this country, was signed by George W. Bush and then reauthorized and expanded under Barack Obama. The surveillance of Muslim communities in this country, the monitoring, the infiltration, the profiling, generated barely a whisper of outrage from those who today cannot stop talking about civil liberties. ICE, the detention infrastructure, the deportation pipelines, all of it was built, funded, and refined across multiple administrations. The monster people are horrified by today was not born in the last eighteen months. It was engineered over decades, piece by piece, bill by bill, with bipartisan hands on the drafting table.
What is revealing is not the cruelty itself but who is now suddenly alarmed by it. For years, communities of color, immigrant families, Muslim Americans, and the poor watched this machinery operate against them in plain sight and were met with polite indifference or outright dismissal. Now that the same tools are being turned in broader directions, now that more people feel the cold air of it at their own threshold, the dread has set in. Some have already left the country. Many more say they will. And that choice is understandable but it also tells its own story about who felt insulated enough to remain silent for so long. This did not ferment overnight. It was orchestrated, methodically assembled, and deliberately fortified while too many people were occupied singing the blue song or the red song, persuaded that their team in power meant the machine was a guardian rather than a predator. It was never your guardian. They were simply more calculated about who it was pointed at.
What we are witnessing today is not an anomaly. It is a symptom. A boomerang. Decades of violence exported abroad, of double standards dressed as diplomacy, of occupation rebranded as security, all of it returning home in a form too grotesque to spin. Yes, things have grown more aggressive, more brazen, more naked, but that aggression did not materialize from thin air. Hold Bush accountable. Hold Obama accountable. Hold Biden accountable. Hold them all accountable, because the thread of complicity runs through every administration, every party platform, and every carefully worded press release that said nothing while doing everything.
Before you beat the drum of DNC orthodoxy, before you reduce generations of suffering to eighteen or twenty months of political theater, understand this: selective outrage is not conscience. The propaganda is sharper now. The packaging is more blunt, more raw, more ugly. The rhetoric is more emotionally traumatizing because there is no longer any varnish over it, no careful language softening the blow, no polished spokesperson standing at a podium making devastation sound reasonable. What you are seeing is the same machine operating at full speed with the hood finally open. The noise is louder not because the engine is new, but because nobody is pretending anymore that it was ever built for you.
Until you see this through a genuine lens of honesty, self reflection, and freedom from partisan bias, you are not truly seeing it at all. You are curating an outrage that is comfortable, one that conveniently begins when your party (Democratic) loses power and ends when it regains it.
And let us be direct about credibility: if over the last three years you have not written, posted, spoken, or raised your voice in any meaningful way about the genocide and the ongoing occupation of Palestinian territory, then your sudden moral urgency rings hollow. It does not matter how many followers you have. It does not matter how many likes your post collects or how many times it gets shared.
Silence during the atrocity and noise during the election cycle is not activism. It is performance. Real conscience does not have a schedule and it does not answer to an algorithm.


Remembering My Mom On What Would Have Been Her 100th Birthday

 




In Remembrance of My Mother

On June 5th I went to River View Cemetery in Portland. This would have been my mom's 100th birthday. I brought flowers, complex feelings of grief and gratitude, and the deepest love and compassion for my mother and her struggles and strengths that spanned the 94 years of her lifetime.

I reflected on the truth of the first mother I'd known for most of our lives. This was the mother who had carried layers of unaddressed generational and cultural trauma. This trauma manifested in alcoholism, depression and anxiety, an inability to love or experience compassion, and all of the symptoms of malignant narcissism and other personality disorders. There was a deeply painful impact of my mother's untreated and unhealed trauma on us all through my childhood and beyond ― all of which played a significant role in my twin brother's suicide in 1978, my father's early death at 60 two years earlier, and the symptoms of addictions and PTSD and complex trauma that I experienced.

As I stood in the cemetery at her gravesite, my heart was also broken open once again as I held with conscious awareness the profound miracle of what I call my mother's "partial awakening" that began in 2013 when Mom was 87 years old. This is when my mother was moved to live here in the Pacific Northwest near her family, was treated with antipsychotic and other medications, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and had just enough memory loss to not remember things that she had done that would have been unbearable, and that she began to experience an immersion in the love of family most of all, my love. This is when my second mom was born. A mother who was capable of receiving and giving love.

This miracle was never supposed to be possible. Moving from "I hate you!" to gazing into my eyes and calling me her "precious darling" was never, ever something I thought could happen. It simply cannot be overstated what an incredible experience of profound grace that it was to bare witness to just enough of an opening into my mother's heart for there to be a channel to love. For the first time. Tears....

Gratefully, I had first engaged in years of addressing, healing, unburdening, and transforming so many layers of my own trauma. If I hadn't, I would have gone down with all of the bitterness and blame, fears and shame, grief and rage, plethora of addictions and endless trauma triggers, and delusions of separation and unworthiness and unlovability that had for so very long been unknowingly and blindly passed down generation after generation. And I would not have been capable of loving my mom, this mother who had once been so brutal. And a second mother would never have been born. Without doing this deep work of healing my own trauma, I would have remained cut off from the wisdom of my heart.

Today I recognize that underneath all of the flailing about, all of the delusions and harm and violence that humans can perpetrate on ourselves and others is this indwelling core Self. I have been moved to share this eloquent quote from Mark Nepo many times who describes our Self in this way “Each person is born with an unencumbered spot, free of expectation and regret, free of ambition and embarrassment, free of fear and worry; an umbilical spot of grace where we were each first touched by God. It is this spot of grace that issues peace. Psychologists call this spot the Psyche, Theologians call it the Soul, Jung calls it the Seat of the Unconscious, Hindu masters call it Atman, Buddhists call it Dharma, Rilke calls it Inwardness, Sufis call it Qalb, and Jesus calls it the Center of our Love.”

For 87 years my mother's connection with her Self was severed, something that happened to her as a tiny vulnerable child. Today I understand that this is what she had to do to survive. And the cost of this estrangement from the wholeness and beauty of who she truly is was profound. 

Then, beginning in 1983 my mom and I teamed up in a conspiracy grounded in Love, the most powerful medicine of all. And the impossible became possible. 

This is rare for someone as narcissistic and as devastatingly wounded and traumatized as my mother had been. But together we did this. It wasn't just my love for her that made all the difference. And it wasn't only the medications and memory loss that made this miracle possible. It was also the courage, the wisdom, the strength and power of love that had always been inside of my mother, seeded in her heart and soul... but buried through so much of her life. But it was always there — this core that cannot be wounded, this Center of our Love.

Our last seven years together is something that I will always treasure with all of my heart and soul. And this is what I remember and cherish most of all. 

Miracles are possible. And we humans can find our way back into the wholeness of who we truly are. This cannot be done in isolation. We need the support of others who are also rooted into a path of awakening from our delusions, addictions, and the ways that we have been wounded in life. And we need the courage and commitment to healing and opening our hurting hearts enough to experience the power and the Grace of Love.

Bless us all...
🙏💜
Molly


Sunday, June 7, 2026

Riane Eisler: New Narratives That Are Integral to Our Human Evolution

Photo by Molly

New Narratives That Are Integral 
to Our Human Evolution

Many cultural stories worldwide present the domination system as the only human alternative. Fairy tales romanticize the rule of kings and queens over “common people.” Classics such as Homers Illiad and Shakespeare’s kings trilogy romanticize “Heroic violence.” Many religious stories present men’s control, even ownership, of women as normal and moral.

These stories came out of the times that oriented much more closely to a “pure” domination system. Along with newer stories that perpetuate these limited beliefs about human nature, they play a major role in how we view our world and how we live in it. But precisely because stories are so important in shaping values, new narratives can help change unhealthy values.

Of particular importance are new stories about human nature. We need new narratives that give us a more complete and accurate picture of who we are and who we can be 
 stories that show that our enormous capacities for consciousness, creativity and caring are integral to human evolution, that these capacities are what make us distinctively human.

 Riane Eisler
From The Real Wealth of Nations: 
Creating a Caring Economics

Pema Chödrön: The Endless Opportunities Of a Lifetime

Photo by Molly

When you open yourself to the continually changing, impermanent, dynamic nature of your own being and of reality, you increase your capacity to love and care about other people and your capacity to not be afraid. You're able to keep your eyes open, your heart open, and your mind open. And you notice when you get caught up in prejudice, bias, and aggression. You develop an enthusiasm for no longer watering those negative seeds, from now until the day you die. And, you begin to think of your life as offering endless opportunities to start to do things differently.

Pema Chödrön
From Practicing Peace in Times of War

Dorothy Day: As We Come To Know the Seriousness of the Situation

 

As we come to know the seriousness of the situation, the war, the racism, the poverty in our world, we come to realize that things will not be changed simply by words or demonstrations. Rather, it's a question of living one's life in a drastically different way.

People say, what is the sense of our small effort? They cannot see that we must lay one brick at a time, take one step at a time. A pebble cast into a pond causes ripples that spread in all directions. Each one of our thoughts, words and deeds is like that. No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless. There is too much work to do.

― Dorothy Day

Omar El Akkad: At Least Fight Against the Theft of Your Soul

This is not an easy book to read. It breaks one's heart wide open  which is why I have been recommending it to everyone. I 100% agree with others that this book by Omar El Akkad is a devastating and essential read. One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This is indeed a meticulous, gutting autopsy of the conscience in a time of atrocity. 

For decades now people  have been asking and wondering how the Germans could have allowed the Holocaust to happen. At the same time, so many in our country are tragically not asking how can Americans not fight within everything we can to stop arming Israel?! How can it be that Netanyahu is welcomed by Democratic and Republican Presidents and politicians from both political parties when Netanyahu is a psychopathic war criminal every much as evil as Hitler who is in real time committing the genocide of the Palestinian people — and which is now spreading into Lebanon?! Why is the American corporate mainstream media refusing report in-depth about of these atrocities, war crimes, and crimes against humanity much less put them in the headlines every day?! How, why, who is enabling the annihilation of a whole population day after day, month after month, year after year?!?!

This is why One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This is a must read NOW. We must fiercely and loudly stand individually and collectively against genocide now, not someday!  Molly


A Compilation of Quotes From

One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been 

Against This by Omar El Akkad

The moral component of history, the most necessary component, is simply a single question, asked over and over again: When it mattered, who sided with justice and who sided with power? What makes moments such as this one so dangerous, so clarifying, is that one way or another everyone is forced to answer.

There is an impulse in moments like this to appeal to self-interest. To say: These horrors you are allowing to happen, they will come to your doorstep one day; to repeat the famous phrase about who they came for first and who they'll come for next. But this appeal cannot, in matter of fact, work. If the people well served by a system that condones such butchery ever truly believed the same butchery could one day be inflicted on them, they'd tear the system down tomorrow. And anyway, by the time such a thing happens, the rest of us will already be dead.

No, there is no terrible thing coming for you in some distant future, but know that a terrible thing is happening to you now. You are being asked to kill off a part of you that would otherwise scream in opposition to injustice. You are being asked to dismantle the machinery of a functioning conscience. Who cares if diplomatic expediency prefers you shrug away the sight of dismembered children? Who cares if great distance from the bloodstained middle allows obliviousness? Forget pity, forget even the dead if you must, but at least fight against the theft of your soul.

* * * * *

One of the hallmarks of Western liberalism is an assumption in hindsight of virtuous resistance as the only polite expectation of people on the receiving end of colonialism. While the terrible thing is happening, while the land is still being stolen, and the natives still being killed, any form of opposition is terroristic and must be crushed for the sake of civilization. But decades, centuries later, when enough of the land has been stolen and enough of the natives killed, it is safe enough to venerate resistance in hindsight. I tell stories for a living and there’s a thick thread of narrative by well-meaning white Westerners that exalts the native populations in so many parts of the world for standing up to the occupiers. Makes of their narrative a neat, reflexive arc in which it was always understood by the colonized and, this part implied, the descendants of the colonizer, that what happened was wrong.

The same people who did the killing and financed the killing and justified the killing and turned away from the killing will congratulate themselves on doing the right thing. It is very important to do the right thing, eventually.

It is a reminder that, in times like these, one remarkable difference between the modern Western conservative and their liberal counterpart is that the former will gleefully sign their name on the side of the bomb while the latter will just sheepishly initial it.

Once far enough removed, everyone will be properly aghast that any of this was allowed to happen. But for now, it’s just so much safer to look away, to keep one’s head down, periodically checking on the balance of polite society to see if it is not too troublesome yet to state what to the conscience was never unclear.

One day the killing will be over, either because the oppressed will have their liberation or because there will be so few left to kill. We will be expected to forget any of it ever happened, to acknowledge it if need be but only in harmless, perfunctory ways. Many of us will, if only as a kind of psychological self-defense. So much lives and dies by the grace of endless forgetting.

But so many will remember. We say that, sometimes, when it's our children killed: Remember. And it may seem now like it's someone else's children, but there's no such thing as someone else's children. The problem with fixating on the abyss into which one's opponent has descended while simultaneously digging one's own is that, eventually, it gets too dark to tell the difference.

*****


The system does not work for you, was never intended to work for you, but as an act of magnanimity on our part, you may choose the degree to which it works against you.


Rules, conventions, morals, reality itself: all exist so long as their existence is convenient to the preservation of power. Otherwise, they, like all else, are expendable.


To preserve the values of the civilized world, it is necessary to set fire to a library. To blow up a mosque. To incinerate olive trees. To dress up in the lingerie of women who fled and then take pictures. To level universities. To loot jewelry, art, banks, food. To arrest children for picking vegetables. To shoot children for throwing stones. To parade the captured in their underwear. To break a man's teeth and shove a toilet brush in his mouth. To let combat dogs loose on a man with Down syndrome and then leave him to die. Otherwise, the uncivilized world might win.


It is an admirable thing, in a politics possessed of a moral floor, to believe one can change the system from the inside, that with enough respectful prodding the establishment can be made to bend, like that famous arc, toward justice. But when, after decades of such thinking, decades of respectful prodding, the condition one arrives at is reticent acceptance of genocide, is it not at least worth considering that you are not changing the system nearly as much as the system is changing you?


And the obvious centrist refrain—But do you want the deranged right wing to win?—should, after even a moment of self-reflection, yield to a far more important question: How empty does your message have to be for a deranged right wing to even have a chance of winning?


Anything to avoid contending with the possibility that all this killing wasn’t the result of a system abused, but a system functioning exactly as intended.


It is instead the middle, the liberal, well-meaning, easily upset middle, that desperately needs the protection this kind of language provides. Because it is the middle of the empire that must look upon this and say: Yes, this is tragic, but necessary, because the alternative is barbarism. The alternative to the countless killed and maimed and orphaned and left without home without school without hospital and the screaming from under the rubble and the corpses disposed of by vultures and dogs and the days-old babies left to scream and starve, is barbarism.


Of course the Republicans would be worse. What the mainstream Democrat seems incapable of accepting is that, for an even remotely functioning conscience, there exists a point beyond which relative harm can no longer offset absolute evil. For a lot of people, genocide is that point. Suddenly, an otherwise very persuasive argument takes on a different meaning: “Vote for the liberal though he harms you because the conservative will harm you more” starts to sound a lot like “Vote for the liberal though he harms you because the conservative might harm me, too.


I understand this is just how things are, ethical double-jointedness being a necessary requirement for the daily debasements of modern political life. And yet I still wonder how someone can maintain this particular facade and sleep at night.


How empty does your message have to be for a deranged right wing to even have a chance of winning? Of all the epitaphs that may one day be written on the gravestone of Western liberalism, the most damning is this: Faced off against a nihilistic, endlessly cruel manifestation of conservatism, and somehow managed to make it close.


* * * * *


A reporter is supposed to agitate against power, against privilege. Against the slimy wall of press releases and PR nothingspeak that has come to protect every major business and government boardroom ever since Watergate. A reporter is supposed to agitate against silence.


To watch the descriptions of Palestinian suffering in much of mainstream Western media is to watch language employed for the exact opposite of language’s purpose—to watch the unmaking of meaning.


To be accused of speaking too loudly about one injustice but not others by someone who doesn’t care about any of them is to be told, simply, to keep quiet.


It’s come to shape the way I think about every country, every community: Whose nonexistence is necessary to the self-conception of this place, and how uncontrollable is the rage whenever that nonexistence is violated?


In the hierarchy of migration, “expat” is largely reserved for white Westerners who leave their homes for another country, usually because the money’s better there. When other people do this, they might be deemed “aliens” or “illegals” or at best “economic migrants.


It is a hallmark of failing societies, I’ve learned, this requirement that one always be in possession of a valid reason to exist.


It's a fascinating directive, "Go back to where you came from." One can't help but wonder how changed the world would be had the ancestors of the same people who use that phrase now heeded the same advice then. Overwhelmingly, it's employed against anyone who tries to make use of the freedoms on which the West so prides itself: the freedom to speak and to criticize, to hold power accountable. In this way, it shares a deep bond with the approach to free expression that can be found in most dictatorships and authoritarian regimes, the places so many immigrants fled: You are free to say so long as what you say is acceptable. Whenever I am told to go back to where I came from, I can't help but think: Why don't you go where I came from? You'd love it there.


There is something stomach-churning about watching a parade of Biden administration press secretaries offer insincere expressions of concern for Palestinians as the same administration bankrolls their butcher.


When next this [Gaza war] happens (and it will happen, again and again, because a people remain under occupation and because the relative compelling powers of both revenge and consequence warp beyond recognition once one has been made to bury their child), this same framing can always be used. The barbarians instigate and the civilized are forced to respond. The starting point of history can always be shifted, such that one side is always instigating, the other always justified in response.


But the word “radicalize” feels wrong, seems to imply an element of extremism, as though rage at this kind of blatant hypocrisy is the abnormal thing, when what is plainly abnormal is to accept it.


The afflicted don’t need comforting, they need what the comfortable have always had.


* * * * *


Colonialism demands history begin past the point of colonization precisely because, under those narrative conditions, the colonist’s every action is necessarily one of self-defense. The story begins not when the wagons arrive, but only after they are circled. In this telling, fear is the exclusive property of only one people, and the notion that the occupied might fear the doing of their occupier is as fantastical as the notion that barbarians might be afraid of the gate. Any population on whom this asymmetry is imposed will always be the instigators, the cause of what is and, simultaneously, the justification for what will be. The savage outside does, the civilized center must respond.


How does one finish the sentence: "It is unfortunate that tens of thousands of children are dead, but…"

Ignore for a moment that the number is an approximation. Ignore the many more children mutilated, orphaned, left to scream under the rubble. Ignore the construction of the sentence itself, its dark similarities to the language of every abuser—You made me do this. Ignore all of this and think about how you would finish this sentence that has now been uttered in one form or another by so many otherwise deeply empathetic Western liberals. How to finish it and still be able to sleep at night.

Surely, many people have, and their answers might relate to terrorists or revenge or an all-encompassing right to self-defense. But trimmed to its most basic language, every proposed conclusion to that sentence is some variant of the same basic thesis: They would have killed more of ours.

What does unlimited fear cost? What will sate it?


* * * * *


In a 2016 essay, the writer and former soldier Roy Scranton describes watching Star Wars while stationed in Baghdad. He is forced in that moment to confront the reality that so much of the American self-image demands a narrative in which his country plays the role of the rebel, the resistance, when at the same time every shred of contemporary evidence around him leads to the conclusion that, by scope and scale and purpose of violence, this country is clearly the empire. A central privilege of being of this place becomes, then, the ability to hold two contradictory thoughts simultaneously.


A political system that won’t restrict firearms even after a shooter massacres classrooms full of children, a system that shrugs when a regime murders and dismembers a journalist because that regime controls an inordinate amount of oil, a system that won’t flinch at the images of starving babies when it has the power to save their lives—what manner of resistance can’t such a system learn to abide? What use is any of it, what use?


The most glaring example in the Western world is Fox News, an entity that more than any other has normalized the practice of severing any relationship between the truth and what one wishes the truth to be. It’s a common refrain that the news industry has failed to come up with a functioning business model in the Internet age, but that’s not entirely true. Jettisoning the requirement to report news in favor of inciting the rage and fear and hatred of your audience before serving them up ads for guns and bunkers is a perfectly functional business model. It might not be journalism, might be the opposite of journalism, but the checks clear.


In a hospital. In a refugee camp. In their beds. While making dinner for their children. While holding their siblings. While cycling. While playing on a beach. In a market. In an incubator. Struggling to breathe, under the rubble. While trying to drag a loved one from the middle of the road. While burying the dead. While scavenging for food. While selling vegetables. While swimming in the sea, trying to catch fish. While playing soccer. While waving a white flag. With their hands raised in surrender. With their hands tied. While running away. At a checkpoint. In a torture camp. In a safe zone. In a school. While delivering aid. While waiting on aid. While performing surgery. While sitting down in a chair. By drone, from the safety of great distance. Live on air. Away from sight.


A world that shrugs at one kind of slaughter has developed a terrible immunity. No atrocity is too great to shrug away now, the muscles of indifference having been sufficiently conditioned.


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I think of a line that has always stayed with me, from Marwa Helal's "poem for brad who wants me to write about the pyramids."


"This is where the poets will interject. They will say show- don't tell. But that assumes most people can see."

It would be nice to go back to caring about the moon. So many of my favorite authors care about the moon. So much of my favorite literature orients in the direction of beauty. But surely any true appreciation of beauty would admit- exclaim, even- that no description of the moon, no matter how stunning, how true, reflects as much beauty back into the world as a missile obliterating a family in their home takes out of it. At the very least, one should not be able to have it both ways. One should not, with a modicum of self-respect, quote Morrison and Baldwin at every turn, but then, faced with the sort of injustice with which so much of their work contends, suddenly retreat into descriptions of whatever it is the finches are doing. What is this work we do? What are we good for?


The literary critic Northup Frye once said, "all art is metaphor. And the metaphor is the grammatical definition of insanity. What art does is meet us at the site of our insanity. Our derangement. The plainly irrational mechanics of what it means to be human. There comes from this, then, at least a working definition of a soul. One's capacity to sit with the mysteries of a thing that cannot, in any rational way, be understood. Only felt. Only moved through. And sometimes that thing is so grotesque- what we do to one another so grotesque- that sitting with it feels an affront to the notion of art as a conduit of beauty. Still, sit. Sit.


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In a perfect world, politics is boring, informed by debate but assured of a mutual understanding that the civic good matters. It’s tree-cutting permits and public transport levies and people who go to school for years and years to learn how to best pass a thoroughfare through a residential area. Republicanism, in its current form, proposes the exact opposite—treason trials for political opponents, the stripping away of any societal covenant, a war on expertise. In the right-wing vision of America, every societal interaction is an organ harvest, something vital snatched from the civic body, sold for one kind of profit or another. It’s a vision that produces an almost unmatched clarity in the base, an unmatched loyalty: Which side of this operation do you want to be on?


I saw the terrible wrath of the place, saw it obliterate hundreds of thousands of people with names and ethnicity and religion like mine, knew for certain that there were deep ugly cracks in the bedrock of this thing called “the free world.” And yet I believed the cracks could be fixed, that the thing at the core, whatever it was, was salvageable. Until the fall of 2023. Until the slaughter.


It’s difficult to live in this country in this moment and not come to the conclusion that the principal concern of the modern American liberal is, at all times, not what one does or believes or supports or opposes, but what one is seen to be.


The truth and reconciliation committees are coming. The land acknowledgements are coming. The very sorry descendants are coming.


To orient oneself in relation to this kind of equivocation as it exists in the West—where a genocide is a conflict of equals, and really who’s to say what a sufficient number of dead civilians is, and it’s all so complicated anyway—is to temporarily forget that most of the world sees this for what it is right now. This mandatory waiting period, in which the rest of the planet politely pleads with the West’s power centers to bridge the gap between its lofty ideals and its bloodstained reality, to do anything at all, is not some natural phenomenon, but the defining feature of neoliberalism. What purer expression of power than to say: I know. I know but will do nothing so long as this benefits me. Only later, when it ceases to benefit me, will I proclaim in great heaving sobs my grief that such a thing was ever allowed to happen. And you, all of you, even the dead in their graves, will indulge my obliviousness now and my repentance later because what affords me both is in the end not some finely honed argument of logic or moral primacy but the blunt barrel of a gun.


This work of leaving, of aiming to challenge power on the field where it maintains the least glaring asymmetry, demands one answer the question: What are you willing to give up to alleviate someone else’s suffering? It makes it impossible for one so engaged to not understand, with terrible clarity, that under the auspices of this machine, the prevailing answer echoing from the mouths of so many of one’s own neighbors is: Nothing at all.


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And it may seem now like it’s someone else’s children, but there’s no such thing as someone else’s children.


It's not surprising, I don't think, that in the midst of this indiscriminate killing, many of the Westerners doing the most active work in opposing genocide are Jews. Here is love born of pain, if the past century's most horrific crime, love of one's own spread outward into love of another. Whatever the empire is, it has no idea what to do with this kind of love, which adheres neither to the empire’s own central principle of self-interest nor to the adjoining principle that solidarity is only with one’s own, that love for one’s people may never become love for another.


Anyone who has dragged a relative out from under the wreckage of a bombed building, who has held a friend bleeding to death in the street while the officer who pulled the trigger looks on, who has watched their water poisoned, their land burned, their communities starved, is intimately well versed in love. But in the eyes of the empire such a thing can never be called love, because the directive was never in the first place, Love, but rather, Love me. In spite of it all, love me.


Alongside the ledger of atrocity, I keep another. The Palestinian doctor who would not abandon his patients, even as the bombs closed in. The Icelandic writer who raised money to get the displaced out of Gaza. The American doctors and nurses who risked their lives to go treat the wounded in the middle of a killing field. The puppet-maker who, injured and driven from his home, kept making dolls to entertain the children. The congresswoman who stood her ground in the face of censure, of constant vitriol, of her own colleagues’ indifference. The protesters, the ones who gave up their privilege, their jobs, who risked something, to speak out. The people who filmed and photographed and documented all this, even as it happened to them, even as they buried their dead.


It is not so hard to believe, even during the worst of things, that courage is the more potent contagion. That there are more invested in solidarity than annihilation. That just as it has always been possible to look away, it is always possible to stop looking away. None of this evil was ever necessary. Some carriages are gilded and others lacquered in blood, but the same engine pulls us all. We dismantle it now, build another thing entirely, or we hurtle toward the cliff, safe in the certainty that, when the time comes, we’ll learn to lay tracks on air.



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